I love Tyler, but sometimes I wonder how someone I love so much can be so different from me. We get along well and have lots in common, but not everything. These are 5 things that are very important to me that he does not like at all. You figure it out, I’m still mystified.
1.) Going to bookstores, especially Barnes and Noble
2.) Reading (see Number 1)
3.) Breakfast, which everyone knows is the best meal of the day
4.) Healthy food (especially turkey versions of anything)
5.) Dark beer
6.) Playing word games (such as Scrabble and Boggle)
7.) Coffee (yes, he is insane)
Common interests are important to a relationship, but this helped me realize early on that it’s okay for me to have interests and passions my husband does not share. He also does not care for sewing, crafting, or any of the Martha Stewart-esque activities that fill my day. He doesn’t like writing but he is supportive of mine. Occasionally I wish he’d be more interested in discussing literature with me, but I know other people that do want to discuss novels, so this need is satisfied. Sometimes when people are single, they brainstorm a list of qualities they hope their future partner will possess. I think this is a good practice and did it myself, although it took a while for my list to evolve to include things like, “caring, funny, and dependable” instead of “excellent musician, runner, and stylish dresser.” It’s interesting to realize that when someone possesses the right qualities, the rest is just different ways of wrapping the same beautiful package. Tyler likes golf, video games, and watching TV. I never would have thought I’d pick someone with those hobbies, but likewise, he probably didn’t think he’d marry a figure skating, violin playin’, computer-geeky crafter with a baking obsession.
Still, I wish he’d get more excited about breakfast and about books… the rest I can live without but I really love those things. ; )